Children of Divorce Month October 2009

Madison Mayor Finley to proclaim October 2009 as a month recognizing the special circumstances of Children of Divorce.

What: Proclamation Signing
Where: 100 Hughes Road, Madison, Ala.
When: October 12, 2009, 6:00pm

Children of divorce and children of unmarried separated couples face unusual and daunting challenges during their formidable years. They can find themselves in situations that are confusing, frightening and rob them of their sense of security.

They can be the source of arguments. They can experience significant loss of love and emotional wellbeing. They can watch parent-child bonds disintegrate. They can be treated as property rather than human children that each have unique feelings, ideas, and desires.

Children that split time between households, through no fault of their own, can face academic difficulties and discrimination for situations that are well beyond their control. Children of divorce are particularly susceptible to emotional problems such as depression and anxiety.

For high-conflict divorce and custody cases, young children are often thrown in the chaos of family disputes. They can be caught in the crossfire of people they love and sometimes are made to choose between two parents who are their world. These experiences can have long term psychological effects and can affect the way they view relationships.

Children of divorce deserve to know that they are not alone; that any conflict between their parents is not their fault; and that their parents' decision to separate or divorce is not their responsibility.

As a community, we must better understand the emotional imprint that divorce, and especially high-conflict custody cases, can leave on innocent and impressionable young minds.

Children are our most important investments in the future of our society.